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A whole host of issues influence how receptive individual women are to casual sex: societal messages regarding female sexuality and gender roles, potential physical safety and — perhaps most importantly — whether or not the man in question is going to be worth getting in the sack. And yet women do want sexual pleasure without pesky relationship strings, just as men do. In an ideal world, this would not be as much of an issue; women would be lauded and encouraged to take ownership of their sexuality just as men are, comprehensive sex education would begin early, contraception would be cheap and plentiful and rape culture would not exist.
In such an environment, men and women both would be free to explore and express their sexuality without fear of shame or judgement. One of the first keys to finding people who are interested in casual sex is very simple: you need to be comfortable with meeting people.
This means that — unlike in the Clark-Hatfield study, daytime approaches are out. For all practical purposes, this means that the best places to go are bars and clubs. The best non-bar and club options are parties — preferably ones that are relatively informal and have around people or so. Any more than that and, frankly, you might as well be at a club anyway. The more room you have to move around and circulate the room, the better — you want to be able to actually approach the people who catch your eye — or even better, give you the come-hither stare.
Most people on dating sites — even more free-wheeling sites like OKCupid or Plenty Of Fish — are going to require at least one audition date before hooking up… and well they should, for safety reasons if nothing else. As for Craigslist… well, ya rolls the dice and ya takes ya chances.
There will be fewer women advertising in the WfM section of Casual Encounters and they will be deluged in requests. And frankly, not all of them are going to be looking for sex… or even actually be women.
Still others will be escorts advertising for clients. After all, one constant amongst the many studies that affected whether a woman was more interested in going home with a man was how they presented: a man who was dressed nicely and takes care of himself was far more likely than one who is more schlubby and unkempt.
This means that you need to dress well. Your hair should be styled and any facial hair you may have should be trimmed and neat. You need to be clean, with trimmed nails, fresh breath and deodorant at a minimum. Equally important, however, is your attitude.
What does this mean to you? It means that you need to be open, relaxed and — above all else — friendly. You need to be approaching with a big warm smile on your face, open and confident body language and a warm tone of voice. This is a mistake on many levels.
This is part of the reason why so many women come away from casual one night stands and same-night lays feeling like shit; for all intents and purposes, she just met someone who wanted to use her as a masturbatory tool, not to connect with a person. No harm, no foul. You want to work in questions about what you can expect as early as possible. The three big questions you need to concern yourself with are:.
Question two is all about what the transportation situation is. Question three is often the one that can catch you at the worst possible time. Instead, you want to keep the conversation in the here and now. Talking about sensual experiences — tastes, smells, sounds — and things that excite her are better. You want to be in the moment rather than thinking about the future… except in one specific instance.
There are a of ways to do this. A wingwoman — especially an ex who you are still friends with — is worth her weight in gold when it comes to selling yourself as being sexually capable.
A female friend who will help you out here is a prize above rubies; women are far more likely to believe it when it comes from someone who presumably has first hand 1 knowledge on the matter. Similarly, whether at parties or within your social circlehaving a reputation as a playboy can work to your advantage.
Failing that, you have many options. To start with, you will want to deliberately build physical chemistry and sexual tensionespecially with physical escalation. Similarly, a cold read about her sexuality helps al that you understand women. Sometimes you like to be sweet and sensual but other times you just want to fuck like an animal. Just as important, however, is the value of being sex-positive.
The last thing you want is to treat her like a whore; by kicking her out — or inventing a reason to leave — you may as well throw a fifty on the nightstand and wipe your dick on the curtains on your way to the walk of shame. She may not want to stay or may want you to leave — roommates, a legitimately early morning, she got hers so what does she need you for now, anyway? Either way, you are cool with it.
If you stay, then in the morning everything is cool. You had a great time. Either way: once again, you treat her with respect and courtesy. David Goldstein One trap that is incredibly easy for young socially inexperienced men to fall into is believing that every woman they have a crush on is "the one", the person they think they have fallen in love with NerdLove Dr.
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And not in that fun, happy, slightly sticky way. And this better be true. Paging Dr. Share Pin 1. Recent Comments David Goldstein One trap that is incredibly easy for young socially inexperienced men to fall into is believing that every woman they have a crush on is "the one", the person they think they have fallen in love with I don't do much more with my female platonic friends besides hug them. Why would I do more with my male platonic friends? Now, I have emotional closeness Do we want men to be affectionate with women without an Nerds and Male Privilege.
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