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It was a year after college, and the person asking me that was a guy I had just started casually dating. He actually was a couple inches taller than me, but the question caught me off guard. It was as if he had peeped in on my mental conversation earlier that afternoon, when I was debating whether I should wear wedges or flats. Years before this, I went to an all-female high school, which meant that if there were going to be boys present at a dance, we had to invite them.
I distinctly remember brainstorming who I was going to invite to my first dance as a freshman. Sure, Mark was my buddy from childhood—we talked on AIM all the time.
He was cute, friendly, funny, and pretty much the ideal first-dance date candidate except for one thing: He was a couple inches shorter than me. I looked at my mom, completely outraged. And for a while, I was right—and adamantly so. Through high school and college, and even into my early twenties, with beau after beau, height was one of the defining characteristics in what I found attractive in a man.
If I still felt petite wearing four-inch heels with my frame of 5 feet 6 inches, he was worth my attention. Slowly, this extreme standard of height waned, but I still felt awkward if he was near as tall as I was. Yet, when I think about why I thought tall guys were more attractive, I found that it boiled down to one thing: my own insecurities. Tall guys made me feel dainty and lithe. Prioritizing height on my checklist seemed like an easy way to avoid my issue with my weight. Looking back, it was all about me. I came to realize that this idea of the right man fixing my insecurities permeated my dating criteria.
I imagined looking up at him, feeling his large muscular build protect me from the world.
While describing this vision might sound absolutely ridiculous please, someone, laugh at meI know I was certainly not alone in this opinion. Since when did true femininity have anything to do with size? Why do so many women feel the need to shrink away, as I did, when I was wearing those wedges? Is it because we are constantly comparing ourselves to a tiny female archetype, in order to complement the prevailing tall and muscular male ideal?
Or have we bought the idea that we need to be smaller in order to be loved? Life has a funny way of working. Only weeks after that guy asked if I would hypothetically be interested in a man shorter than me, I unexpectedly met the man who would become my husband at an Iron and Wine concert in Chicago. What I did notice was his sharp wit and his smile.
His kindness, his confidence, and his laugh.
In a weird twist of fate, a year into dating Jason, we were at another concert together, and we ran into my old childhood friend Mark. When Mark shook hands with my husband, I realized that they stood at the exact same height. I think fate has a sense of humor—and some awesome lessons. We asked 12 of our readers to describe their perfect match, and then take this test based on neuroscience. This one mental shift helped me attract guys that were good for me. Ever find yourself focusing more on making a good impression than actually getting to know your date?
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Girls, Would you date a guy shorter / the same height a you? Guys, would you date a girl taller then you?